Mark Bennett

Coaching is about effective change, away from what is not working even though it may be safe and predictable, and toward something that truly reflects your most important values. A coach is a trusted ally to help you see more clearly into the true nature of your situation, surface what you care about most deeply, and gain the capacity to act with courage and resolve.

I can assist you in:

Skillfully working with conflicts
Making wise decisions
Clarifying your spiritual direction
Creating a road map to follow in order to reach your goal
Assessing risk and taking action with determination
Finding meaning and purpose in crisis and difficulty
Holding yourself and others accountable
Phone: 505-984-2251
Using Four Gateways in Decision Coaching and Mediation

My mission is to help individuals, groups, and organizations cultivate clarity, integrity, and wisdom to:
Make good decisions through dialogue and reflection
Transform conflict into peace through agreement
Develop effective plans for strategic success
Build collaborative partnerships and teams
In 2005, my book, A Field Guide to Good Decisions, came out. Four Gateways is an excellent fit with my work and mission because its holistic approach builds integrity, it is inherently reflective, increases clarity, and accesses internal wisdom.

I use the approach in my coaching work to help individuals deepen their understanding of the issue and their inner framework for examining the situation. This improved understanding is critical as it provides a strong foundation for me to work with the identification of key values that will guide their actions. I call these values the ‘guiding stars.’ Accessing the four gateways first, in my experience, helps people voice these guiding stars from a clear, strong place within themselves. This provides them with confidence and courage when facing a difficult decision.

In my mediation work, I regularly meet separately with the individuals in conflict. The term for this separate meeting is a ‘caucus.’ One of the primary functions of a caucus is to do a ‘reality-check’ when the mediation process has reached an impasse of unyielding, either-or positions. I believe that one-two rounds of Four Gateways questions taking 15-30 minutes is a powerful way to encourage the person to leave their fixed position and look at the issue with different eyes. Four Gateways architecture provides a safe space for a person to confront the illusion of certainty and acknowledge multiple inner perspectives. It is critical to embrace this complexity in order to move toward wisdom. The tension of conflict often removes that capacity to find this inner space of perspective.

I am a mediator, trainer, coach and consultant focusing on effective decision-making by individuals, groups, and organizations. I have been a professional mediator for 26 years. My mediation experience includes employment; civil rights; organizational; health care; divorce and family; land use; public policy and commercial issues.

From 1987 to 2005, I was an adjunct professor at the University Of New Mexico School Of Law teaching courses in general, family, and advanced mediation.

I have introduced mediation skills to thousands of people from a wide variety of professional backgrounds (managers, lawyers, law students, health care professionals, educators, realtors, mental health professionals, and human resource personnel). I also lead trainings in workplace mediation, conflict resolution, communication, strategic planning and negotiation.

I regularly facilitate significant decision-making processes for a wide range of clients including major federal agencies, state and local governments, community non-profit groups, foundations, school districts, hospitals and health care organizations, businesses, and universities.

A Field Guide to Good Decisions: Values in Action (Praeger, 2006).
The Art of Mediation (NITA, 1996, second edition, Dec. 2005).
Negotiation Skills (ALI-ABA, 1996).
“Using Mediation for Employment Disputes” (chapter in Labor and Employment in New Mexico (Butterworth, 1995).
Special Education Mediation and Negotiation (New Mexico State University, 1990).
“Designing Dispute Systems for Organizations” (New Mexico Bar Bulletin, June 1992).

I graduated from law school at the University of Texas at Austin (1975) where I also received graduate and clinical training in psychology (no degree).

My current work focuses on the intentional use of organizational, professional and personal values in making difficult decisions. Along with my colleague, Dr. Joan McIver Gibson, former Director of the Health Sciences Ethics Center at the University of New Mexico, I offer a course to leaders and managers called Creating Good Decisions: Values in Action.